Compliance Driven Vs Regulation Driven

Let's talk compliance. It is everywhere right?

When I have worked into schools, communities, centres anywhere, we seem to seek compliance. Over my learning and developing as a therapist, I ask myself Why? Why do we really want compliance, what does it truelly achieve?

We use complinace to establish authority right? But just take a moment to people in authority that is in your life, do you highly respect those who dominate and control you and don't take into consideration how you are feeling OR do you respect thos ein authority who are open for connection and listen to you opinions, thoughts and feelings?

I know which I respect more in authority. So......how does this relate to our children and regulation?

What does Compliance driven approach do?

• Trigger shame 
• Cause embarrassment 
• Surpression of emotions 
• Masking 
• Their feels are important
• They don't or shouldn't feel the way they do
• Scared
• Limited or no connection between the two individuals.
• Less motivation 
• Lower ability skills expressed because accessing higher level brain activities is more challenging. 
• Less engagement in daily tasks (unless to scared of course)

So why should we adopt Regulation Driven support in EVERY environment?

What does regulation driven support do?

• Develop openess for connection 
• Build bonds between the two individuals 
• Respect for how someone is feeling 
• Natural respect is developed (for those who are in authority)
• True expression of feelings
• Boundaries naturally develop because of the connection and respect that is formed, so instructions are folllowed. 
• Internal bodily sensations and needs is met (interoception)
• More engaged in tasks
• More motivation to do activities. 
• Higher level skills expressed 

Now, I have worked toward this compliance model......but when you do this comparison, it makes total sense right?

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Speak Soon 

Kate xx