What sensory dysregulation looks like after school.

Are you a parent who is unsure how your child will be on school pick? 

After a long day at school, some children, especially those with sensory sensitivities, can become dysregulated from sensory overload. Sensory overload occurs when a child is bombarded by too much sensory input (noise, lights, crowds, etc.), and their nervous system struggles to process it all. School is a highly sensory motor demanding environment where they have to have lots of foundational skills to help them function on a day to day basis like, listening to their teacher, writing, listening and writing at the same time, ignoring irrelevant noise, being able to sit still, good attention and concentration, good postural control for sitting and so much more!

So how do you know f your child is dysregulated after school?

Here are some common signs of sensory overload to look out for:

1. Meltdowns or Emotional Outbursts:
The most obvious sign is sudden mood swings or meltdowns. Your child may burst into tears, scream, or display intense frustration over seemingly minor issues. This happens because their nervous system is overwhelmed, and they don’t have the capacity to manage their emotions.

2. Irritability or Defiance:
Children might become more defiant or argumentative after school, refusing to follow directions or becoming upset over small requests. This isn’t intentional behaviour; it’s a sign they’re struggling to cope with what they’ve been through during the day.

3. Withdrawal or Isolation:
While some children react outwardly, others may shut down. They may retreat to their room, avoid conversation, or seem distant and uninterested in interacting with family members. This withdrawal is their way of protecting themselves from further sensory input.

4.Clinginess:
On the flip side, some children become extremely clingy after school, seeking constant comfort or reassurance from a parent. This is a way for them to feel grounded after the chaotic environment of school.

5. Hyperactivity or Restlessness:
Some children respond to sensory overload by becoming hyperactive. You may notice them bouncing off the walls, unable to sit still, or engaging in repetitive movements like rocking or jumping. This is often their way of releasing built-up energy from the day.

6. Difficulty Transitioning:
Simple transitions, like moving from school to home, or from dinner to homework, might become a battle. They could resist leaving the car, get upset when asked to take off their shoes, or struggle with changing routines. The transition from a structured school day to home can feel overwhelming when they are already overloaded.

7. Physical Discomfort or Complaints:
Some children may complain about feeling “itchy” clothes, sensitivity to sounds, or bright lights. They may rip off shoes, socks, or school uniforms as soon as they walk in the door, seeking relief from physical discomfort.

8. Difficulty with Self-Regulation:
A dysregulated child might have trouble calming down on their own. You may find it hard to help them settle or engage in calming activities like reading or playing quietly. They might struggle to express their needs or emotions and instead act out.

How to Help Your Child Regulate:
- Create a Calm, Safe Space: Offer a quiet area at home where they can decompress without extra noise or visual stimulation.
- Sensory Tools: Weighted blankets, fidget toys, or noise-cancelling headphones can help a child self-regulate after a sensory overload.
- Routine and Predictability: Keeping after-school routines predictable and low-key can help them feel secure and ease transitions.
- Avoid Extra Demands: Allow your child some time to unwind before placing additional demands on them, such as chores or homework.
- Validate Their Feelings: Let your child know it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and that you’re there to support them. Don't dismiss the feelings your child is feeling, they are very real to your child in that moment!

Recognizing the signs of sensory overload and dysregulation is key to helping you and your child recover from a challenging day and regain balance. With time and support, your child can learn to cope with these feelings more effectively.

If you would like more strategies and techniques to support your child's sensory dysregulation afterschool check out the Before and after school sensory lifestyle: Practical tips masterclass for only £27 for unlimited access to recording and BONUS Sensory Schedule for you to use throughout the day and even share with school. 

Kate xx